'Now you may kiss the bride', a phrase that marked the beginning of your new life together and no doubt big changes to things you previously knew.
Certainly there are things you expect like love, struggle, joy and hurt, but there were other things you didn't count on including strong emotions not only in your marriage but also between you and your single girlfriends.
As you learn to become a wife and part of a partnership, you have to re-build friendships with the women in your life as well.
1. Sometimes I don't know how to relate to you.
I know sometimes my single friends have a hard time relating to my life situation because they haven't experienced what I am going through. Just know that I feel the same way about you, sometimes.
It seems that an invisible wall went up after I got married, and I couldn't figure out how to break through it.
Some of my friends were jealous, some were intimidated about how our friendship would change, others were feeling pressure on their own relationships to take the next step.
This makes me unsure about what I should share about my life. I don't know if I should be avoiding stories about marriage because they make you feel uncomfortable or share occasional mention of my husband in conversation. It's hard to have an open and honest relationship if I board off a big part of my life.
We need to work together to get through the awkwardness and open up conversation and share where your life of singleness is taking you, me with my marriage, with Jesus and with the church.
2. Relationships are wonderful. But yes, they're hard too.
Even though I am not in your current shoes, I know that being single can be really hard. I've been there too. What you need to know though, is that marriage can be hard as well.
Yes, I am grateful to have someone to come home to, to support me, to live our lives together. I wouldn't be who I am without my husband in my life. But marriage is not all sunshine and rainbows.
We are 2 different people with sometimes very different views on how we should live, eat, work and parent. We have to keep our lines of communication open and our love first, even when we disagree. It can be exhausting having to work through things every day when you just want to walk away and not have to deal with the emotions.
There are going to be days when I need you to remind me of my vows to my husband and there will be days when you need me to help you trust God's promises, too. I think we can help each other with our struggles and come out stronger in the end.
Continue on to the next page for admissions on sex, freedom and our roles.