The best way to take charge of life is to clear away the mental clutter and get real. Whether you're an over-thinker, an under-achiever or a worrywart, a no-nonsense approach to life is a great way to clean up your act.
As I child, I was always thinking: analysing, criticising everything to death. I assure you, it was an exhausting way to live - especially when trying to learn calculus. The BANE of my existance was math. I just could not do it. My problem? Over-thinking. Some of the best advice I ever received came from my science teacher - she said: Caitlin, simplify.
Now, I'm not a mathematician, or even a science major, but that single word changed the way I did math and eventually, the way I did life. It still took a few years of young 20s foolishness to figure how it worked for things like relationships, job interviews, negotiating that raise, or buying a car.
Now that I know the no-nonsense approach, I thought I'd share it with you. Remember, it's not a cure-all. It's just a perspective: a philosophy, a way to do life that seems to work. It's what happens when you Simplify.
1. Do Not Be Deterred
2. Be Confident In Yourself
That's right, believe. Some days, you'll have to pull a Wendy Darling and tell yourself "I believe, I believe, I believe" But, we promise, thought + action = results. Keep believing in No.1
3. Be Willing To Negotiate
Believing in yourself is important, but there is a difference between being confident and being cocky. Be willing to understand your limits, know what you're worth and what you can ask for. When it comes to the various relationships we have - work, family, partners - approaching them with an open mind and a clear sense of self-worth is always in our best interest.
5. Know What You Want And How To Get It
Make a list, a mind-map, a song, a drawing, a vision board. Whatever. Just figure out what it is you that you want, and then figure out how to get it. If you don't know, ask someone who does. Talk with experts in your industry, speak to people have experience who can mentor you and point you in the right direction. Once you have a plan of action attack!
6. Be Aware Of The Bull
This one is pretty simple - be aware of the bull, yours and others. There are misguided beliefs we have about ourselves that hold us back, or delude us into making bad decisions. There are also people out there who will tell you what you want to hear - even if they have the best intentions for you, it may not be good for you in the long run. Learn how to recognize the truth and spot a lie.
7. Stop Doing What Doesn't Work
They say that the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. Listen, if something doesn't work, don't try to make it work. I'm not telling you to give up, what I'm saying here is: don't repeat your mistakes. I know it's easier said than done, but when you make a mistake, make note of it. Write it down - what did you do? Why didn't it work?
Learn from it, figure out how you can do things differently, then do that.
Life isn't foolproof, we're imperfect people doing our best to get this right - for ourselves, our children, our communities. So, take it all with a grain of salt. Approach this incredible gift with a sense of wonder, but handle the basics with no-nonsense.