OkCupid blogger, Christian Rudder, did a fascinating study in 2010. He used the data for men and women’s age preferences. Women’s desirability peaked at 21. Men not only state their age preferences; they’ll even reach out to women below this listed preference. In other words, men not only message women their age, but even younger, teenagers. Yuck, gross. Really guys?
Rudder’s article is interesting, but it doesn’t get into the exact reasons why men go for younger women. Here are nine reasons men like younger women backed up by science.
1. Men don’t find older women as attractive as younger women:
In her article, Rudder says the phrase “Many of you are probably scoffing at the idea that many 35 year-olds are as attractive as many 25 year-olds.” Really? Ten years adds new life experiences and age lines. So only a naive person would believe this dribble.
2. Older men are afraid of death:
Stacey London of “What Not To Wear”fame said, “Maybe there’s a fear of mortality when men watch women age, and that it’s just too much of a mirror.” this is a nice way of saying women are immortal and unafraid of death.
3. Younger women make them live longer:
‘A study done by Sven Drefahl of the University of Stockholm found that men (over fifty) with much younger spouses tended to live longer.’ This didn’t consider health, but hey, having a strong constitution involves many elements.
4. Younger women are more permissive:
I don’t really agree with this one. the site “Meaww” suggested (with no proof positive) that younger women can be “all right with things that older women would not be” and that older men go for them to “achieve fantasies which they may not have lived with older women.”
5. “Older men need ego massages all the time. Younger girls are available to do that work”:
I think any woman of any age would find this offensive. To be seen by anyone as a source of ego-massage would make me personally kick him in his pompous ass with the pointed toe of my ego-tipped stiletto.
6. Women their age aren’t in their fertile crescent anymore:
‘Professor Madeleine Fugere, author of The Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships, echoes many evolutionary psychologists when she says that men dating younger is all about “ensuring that a prospective partner is fertile.”’ Here’s some bad news for the men: Your sperm has an expiration date starting around 40.
7. Women their own age are Too Into Having Children:
Responses from a survey on Whisper, an anonymous confession site, a common thread was found that men were bored of women their age nagging them to have children before the biological clock runs out. Anyone else see the irony with the previous point?
‘Disgraced Male Feminist' and academic Hugo Schwyzer wrote in a 2011 article that middle-aged men go for younger women because they’re insecure and “they don’t seem to value validation from women their own age as much as they value it from women 10 to 25 years younger.”’ i almost feel sorry for the old geezer hitting on the younger woman. Almost, but not quite.
9. Younger women have lower self-esteem/lower confidence/lower expectations:
Utter bullshit. I don’t care so much about the age gap that may exist within a couple. But if you’re an older man dating a younger woman just because you enjoy the power deferential, there’s something wrong here. Every relationship needs to be set on equal footing.
If you’re a man who likes younger women, date who you want, but please stop messaging teenagers.