Mom Explains The Touching Reason Why She Buys Extra Mother's Day Cards Every Year

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Mom Explains The Touching Reason Why She Buys Extra Mother's Day Cards Every Year

As with most holidays, Mother's Day can be bittersweet for some moms especially those who made the decision to give up a child for adoption.

There are plenty of mothers who aren't celebrated on that day because they're not involved in raising their child.

Last week, a San Antonio, Texas blogger and mother of three shared a Facebook post that highlighted the importance of remembering birth moms on Mother's Day and the touching reason why.

In the emotional post, Jill Robbins wrote about the "extra cards" she buys every year for her two adopted sons' birth mothers.

"I write my sons' birth mothers (yes, there are two different birth moms) a card every year. I've done this every year that we've had them. I write little snippets of what they've done and accomplished every year, what their challenges and accomplishments have been .. And then I put them away in a shoebox that sits on my closet shelf because I don't know what else to do with them," wrote Jill.

The blogger and her husband adopted their 6 and 7-year-old sons from China, a country that prohibits "a mother from making an adoption plan" and if an abandoned child is adopted the parents are barred from contacting the birth mother.

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Jill writes the cards as her personal way of dealing with her inability to communicate with her sons' birth moms and assure them that they're in safe hands.

"These women wonder where their babies are, I know they do. Although I don't know the circumstances that led to their decisions, I do wish them peace. I wish they could receive these cards I write every Mother's Day. I wish they knew their babies were safe and loved. Cherished. Thriving," Jill added.

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Her post resonated well with mothers and people who were raised by adoptive parents. Read their reactions on the next page.

One user, Rose, commented with her own experience as an adopted child:

"Thank you. I am an adopted child. I wish someone could have done this for my birth mom. She lived with so much guilt for so long.I was blessed to have located her (along with a whole new part to my family) just before my 30th birthday...You're right about these mothers and their worry over their children. They think of them every day.Your boys are so fortunate that you not only love them, but you have such love for the women who gave them life. ❤"

Adoptive mom, Karen, shared her Mother's Day tradition:

"I love that even though you can't mail the cards you still write them. We have an open adoption and I mail a Mother's Day card to my daughter's birth mom every year!"

Another mom, Paula, was inspired to start sending cards to her kids' birth mothers after reading Jill's story:

"I'm a momma of three adopted kiddos (Kazakhstan, India and China). I love this idea and starting it this year here!! ❤"

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Jill concludes her beautifully heartbreaking post with a reminder that "adoption is complicated" and the mothers involved have it tough. She also wants to reassure mothers who gave up a child that they're equally as important as every other mom.

"You might know someone who is a mom through adoption. You might know someone who has made an adoption plan...AKA given up their child for adoption. Hug all those mamas. Hug them tight. No matter how you slice it, mamas do hard things."

"I've shared this secret of mine in the hopes that someone that is out there hurting or searching will read my words and realize how important they are," she wrote.

Blair isn't a bestselling author, but she has a knack for beautiful prose. When she isn't writing for Shared, she enjoys listening to podcasts.