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They Shamed Her For Having "Too Many Kids" But Her Response Was Perfect

You know what they say, "Hands Full, Hearts Full".

While some parents struggle with getting one child under control, others have no problem having more children than hands.

As parents, it seems that we are open to be criticized for everything that we do, from what we feed our children to our approach to sharing.

When Courtney Lester, mom of three entered her local Walmart to do her shopping, a stranger stopped her to share his comments on her family.

With her 4-year-old singing a song, her 2-year-old sitting quietly in the cart and her newborn asleep in the carrier, he felt the need to share his opinion about her offspring.

"I feel sorry for you, you have your hands full with all those kids," the stranger told her.

Now, let's be honest, 3 kids isn't a crazy amount of children to have and while having a trio of little ones can be a challenge some days, most parents would agree this is not a cause for sympathy from someone who you don't know.

"Nobody should tell a parent they feel sorry for them in a judgemental [sic] way or judge another parent/family, period. The size of someone's family is absolutely none of anyone's business as long as their children are happy, loved, and cared for. If you feel like you should make a comment to a family or a parent, try something uplifting instead. I promise, that would be much more appreciated," Courtney wrote in a Facebook post after the incident.

At the time, Courtney was too shocked to react to the comment from the stranger.

But be certainly had something to say about it after.

"When he said it, I was honestly too shocked to react," Lester tells CafeMom. "I hear that I have my hands full often, but hearing someone say 'I feel sorry for you' really bothered me. I tried to let it go while we continued shopping, but the more I thought on it, the more I realized that it was not okay. My husband said, 'I can't believe he just said that. That was really rude!' When he said that, I knew I wasn't overreacting. I have several mommy friends on Facebook that I knew would understand how upset I was, so I felt like I needed to share with them."

That's when she took to Facebook to share a few choice words, and a confession that will make every mom have her back.

"What you can't tell is that I lost 2 babies before being blessed with my last 2, so if you want to feel sorry for me, there's the only reason why you should. My children are blessings. They aren't perfectly modeled citizens because, well, they're children. Sometimes they're loud, sometimes they misbehave, and sometimes they have complete meltdowns. However, you didn't even see that side of them. What you saw was a young couple with a 4-year-old singing a song, a 2-year-old sitting quietly in the buggy, and a newborn sleeping in his baby carrier. If that is your definition of having your hands full, I feel sorry for YOU."

To the stranger in Wal-Mart who said "I feel sorry for you, you have your hands full with all those kids", this is what...

Posted by Courtney Lester on Monday, June 19, 2017

Like most parents with toddlers, there are some days she "can't wait for bedtime" and her kids always keep her on toes, as "one of them always needs something", but she has "never viewed them as an inconvenience or reason for someone to 'feel sorry'" for her.

"Even on days when they won't listen, have meltdowns, and when it seems like nothing I do is good enough, I have never felt sorry for myself and I don't expect others to either," Lester wrote.

The response to her message has been huge as parents everywhere can feel this mom's struggle.

"If having 3 kids automatically makes my hands full, so be it ... But please, never feel sorry for me because my heart is more full than my hands could ever be," she concluded.

Couldn't have said it better myself, mama!

Source: CafeMom / Honey Nine