Times sure are changing. It used to be that moving in with someone didn't happen until you were married. Sex was not something you openly talked about, and meeting people online was saved for the "desperate" and lonely.
But now, the way technology has evolved and conversations around female empowerment have taken a step forward, sex is a more acceptable topic of conversation. That doesn't mean all generations are comfortable talking about it, however.
Moms and daughters have differing opinions on sex and dating, and we know this because I asked my mom some questions about it and her answers certainly weren't the same as mine.
And we're not the only ones.
In a video by the Telegraph, a group of moms and daughters were gathered together to answer some questions on dating, and it's clear that a generation gap certainly changes opinions.
These were the questions:
- What's the best way to meet a partner?
- Have you tried online dating or dating apps?
- Do you talk about sex?
- Where do you stand on sexting?
My mom and I each answered the questions as honestly as possible, and on some things we lined up, while on others we had different views.
What's the best way to meet a partner?
MOM: That's tough since I haven't been on the dating scene in over 30 years. However, I would say I would like to meet a partner organically - meaning meet someone at an event or doing something that we both like - in a social setting. Or maybe, just maybe, being set up, but not one-on-one set up - more of a group set up.
ME: I think in a perfect world you'd meet someone at work, or in a social setting, and then hit it off. But I like the idea of it being a friend that turns into something more because you know each other. That being said, I don't think there's anything wrong with online dating anymore.
Have you tried online dating or dating apps?
MOM: I have never tried online dating or dating apps although I know a LOT of people who have met their soul mates that way, so I can't say anything bad about it.
ME: I've tried both, but not seriously. I don't think I'm at the point in my life where I've ruled out meeting someone in person. I'm only 25 years old and I think I still have a lot of opportunity to explore before settling down. I've been on Tinder and Bumble on and off, but neither had anything serious come from it. I see online dating sites, especially the ones where you have to pay, as a sign that you're ready to find a long-term relationship.
Do you talk about sex?
MOM: I never talk about sex, either to my kids or friends. It just seems too personal.
ME: Yes and no. I don't talk about it with my family, but my friends and I do. We don't sit down and run through step-by-step explanations, but it's definitely not an off-limits topic. I think we're at a point where sex isn't as taboo as it used to be, and that's probably a good thing.
Where do you stand on sexting?
MOM: Ha-Ha - where do I stand on sexting?! First I have to learn how to text properly and know what sexting really is! I think of sexting as being very explicit sex talk and my reaction to that is I wouldn't like it in a text. If I wanted to talk that way to someone or if I wanted to hear that kind of stuff I would rather it in person. That being said, getting a love note or a text with thoughtful or kind words is nice but sexting (if I have the right meaning) wouldn't interest me.
ME: Have I done it? Yes (sorry mom.) Is it something I do regularly? No. I think it's fine and it works well for couples who are in long-distance relationships, etc. But how do you know the person is really "into" when they're messaging you? And more seriously, how do you know your messages aren't being shared somewhere?
It should be pointed out that my mom and I have a great relationship and we talk about a lot of things. We usually have similar views, but every once in a while a topic comes up where we both stand on different sides of the argument. It's not a bad thing, and often times neither of us are "wrong," it's just the way different generations think and were raised.