Oprah Explains Why She Chose To Never Have Kids

There's no debate that Oprah Winfrey is one of the most powerful women in the world.

Dubbed the "Queen of All Media," Oprah rose to fame through her popular talk show The Oprah Winfrey Show, but now her multi-billion empire includes her own production company, a magazine, books, a radio show, a line of frozen meals, a charitable organization, and a school for girls.

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The former talk show host has had so many incredible achievements over the years, including receiving the President's Medal of Freedom, honorary degrees from Duke and Harvard, as well as being ranked as one of the wealthiest (she is North America's first and only multi-billionaire black person) and most influential women in the world. But despite all of Oprah's accomplishments, there are people who can't seem to look past the fact that she has never been married and has no children.

Oprah, 63, who has been in a steady 30-year relationship with her long-time partner, Stedman Graham, has always made it clear that she had no desire to be a wife or start a family.

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The entrepreneur previously discussed why her relationship with Stedman wouldn't work had they been married in an interview with News.com.au.

"If you ever interviewed him [Stedman], he would tell you that had we married, we would not be together today," Oprah said back in 2013. "Because he’s a traditional man and this is a very untraditional [SIC] relationship."

"I think it’s acceptable as a relationship, but if I had the title ‘wife,’ I think there would be other expectations for what a wife is and what a wife does," she continued. "First of all, you’ve got to come home sometimes," she jokingly added.

As for being a mother, Oprah recently opened up about her choice to not have kids in an interview with Good Housekeeping U.K, and her explanation could finally help nip the speculations in the bud.

Oprah explained why she decided to forgo having children, and her reason is perfectly understandable.

"I didn’t want babies. I wouldn’t have been a good mom for babies,” Oprah told Good Housekeeping. "I don’t have the patience. I have the patience for puppies, but that’s a quick stage."


Although the media mogul doesn't have any kids at the moment, she was once a mom. In 1968, at the age of 14, Oprah gave birth to a son, but unfortunately the baby, who she later named Canaan, died a weeks weeks after birth. The pregnancy was a result of sexual abuse she experienced as a minor.

"I was raped at 9 years old by a cousin, then again by another family member, and another family member," Oprah revealed. She kept her pregnancy a secret because she felt so much "pain and shame."

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After going through an experience like that, Oprah decided to focus on helping children in need in the United States and around the world. Instead of raising children of her own, she took on the responsibility to care for hundreds of girls at her boarding school, The Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy for Girls, in South Africa.

"When people were pressuring me to get married and have children, I knew I was not going to be a person that ever regretted not having them, because I feel like I am a mother to the world’s children," Oprah continued.

"Love knows no boundaries," she added. "It doesn’t matter if a child came from your womb or if you found that person at age two, 10 or 20. If the love is real, the caring is pure and it comes from a good space, it works."

Oprah travels to South Africa atleast twice a year, and she's constantly in touch with the girls and those in charge of the school to ensure they're all faring well.

"It is more rewarding than I would ever have imagined. I was doing this to help them, but it has brought a light to my life that I can’t explain," said Oprah.

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She also candidly told the magazine that if she had biological children they wouldn't get the attention they deserve because she would always be too occupied.

“If I had kids, my kids would hate me,' she admitted. "They would have ended up on the equivalent of the Oprah show talking about me; because something (in my life) would have had to suffer and it would’ve probably been them."

Her honesty is refreshing!

What do you think of Oprah's explanation?

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