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What To Remember When Friends Stop Making An Effort To Be In Your Life

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One of the hardest struggles in life is when friends and family estrange you. Whether it's because of a flight, conflicting schedules, busy lifestyle, or difference of opinion, people who once were friends become strangers in just a short time.  

We've all been there. No matter how good of a friend you are, some people will ignore your texts asking to meet up or cancel plans at the last minute. Or they might suddenly stop being there for you when they begin dating someone - overnight your friendship is replaced with a boyfriend or girlfriend.

After a while, it becomes exhausting to always be the one to send the first text or come up with a plan to hang out while they're making zero effort to keep in touch. But what can you do about it?


First of all, it's important to remember chasing people is a waste of your time. A true friendship requires effort on both sides, and when that's not happening, you need to let it go.

Deborah Reber, an inspirational author, said: "Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself."


While letting go is important, most of us fall into the the trap of becoming resentful towards friends who stop making an effort. After all, it's hard not to take things personally when friends leave. You might feel betrayed and ask what you did to deserve it.

The truth is, it probably has nothing to do with you. Oftentimes, life circumstances pull two people apart. Life gets busy and humans are bad at time management. Even when a person cuts you off on purpose, the worst thing you could do is be angry with yourself or your friend.

Anger and resentment will rob you of your joy, increase your stress levels, and decrease your chances of finding inner peace. None of these things are helpful towards your own physical or mental well-being. If you've been wronged by your friend, lack of forgiveness will only make it worse.

Budda said it right: "In the end, only three things matter: How much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you."

If people aren't making an effort, it's time for you to move on. Believe there are amazing people out there who will be your friend - you have only to find them. Everyone needs friendship. In the meantime, you'll want to do things that make YOU happy - with or without your friends.

Continue to the next page to discover what you should do when friends stop trying to be in your life.

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