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6 Tips to Follow When Dating Online

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Technology has revolutionized many aspects of people's lives, including dating. People are so busy that random meet-ups in social places like coffee shops, churches, restaurants and bars are rare. It is also tricky approaching a total stranger and striking up a conversation. Luckily, social media has completely changed the dating scene. Now, with the numerous dating apps, you could engage a total stranger while in the comfort of your house, get to know them and finally meet one or two. If you are lucky, you could end up with the spouse of your dreams. However, it would help if you were careful and knew about some online dating tips to find what you are looking for successfully. Here are a few tips to guide you.

1.    Focus on What You Want

Like any other venture, when looking for a partner online, you need to make up your mind about what you want. If you are looking to find a marriage partner for a committed relationship, you should go into sites that claim to offer such. Some want casual relationships and sex, while others are looking for friends. Sit down and reflect on what you need. You can even journal about the kind of person you want before starting your search. With this information, you will be in a position to narrow down only to sites where you can meet what you are looking for.

2.    Look for Authenticity

People use great pictures to lure others on dating apps. Most turn out different when you finally meet them. When looking for possible partners, try to distinguish between genuine and fake profiles. Those with genuine pictures easily share more when you request. From their profiles, you can also see that they are just there to meet people but not lure others for their selfish needs. Normal pictures appeal to the human emotion more than overly done ones. You should also try and use more of your natural photos to connect better with others.

3.    Curate Your Profile to Match Your Personality

Putting up your pictures alone does not cut it if you want to get suitable matches. You need to follow your pictures with a profile that tells more about you. People tend to connect with others with whom they at least know their interests. Those with similar interests as you will match up with you and find it easier to initiate a conversation. Be more thoughtful with your profile to invite the right kind of people to match up with you. For instance, if you like a particular kind of music, list that on your profile. Those who share those interests will most likely want to know you.

4.    Initiate Conversations

When you get your matches, do not just wait for them to say something to you. Initiate conversations and make them interesting. Instead of just the typical "hello," comment on some interest, you share or make a compliment. Try to create a conducive environment for the other party also to get courage and speak to you. Keep in mind that starting this conversation does not necessarily mean that you will end up together. It is just a way of getting to know them and seeing what the future holds. In any case, you will never meet anyone if you do not speak. Most ladies tend to wait for guys to start the conversation. You could miss your soulmate when you restrain yourself from speaking to the other party.

5.    Ignore Those Not Interested

Not everyone you match with will be interested in you. When you send a message to someone, and they fail to respond, it could be either of two things. They have not been online for a while and will probably respond when they check their messages or are just not interested. Either way, avoid sending multiple messages. You come out as desperate. If someone is interested in knowing you, they will respond if they want and at their convenience. Otherwise, focus on the responsive matches.

6.    Avoid Dating App Burnout

At the end of it all, you will only end up with one person. When searching, you will encounter many people who will be interested in you. However, you cannot make them all happy. Eventually, you will need to narrow it down to one. Focus on identifying one or two that you connect with, then try and connect on a deeper level before you get down to one. You can go for a few different dates but try and limit them to save both money and time.

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