The classic saying goes, "Beggars can't be choosers."
But a woman who took to social media to criticize her boyfriend's choice of engagement ring argues otherwise.
She shared a photo of the ring after discovering it tucked away in a nightstand.
But while other women might be overjoyed by their discovery, it's safe to say she was not impressed.
"Ewwwww."
The woman originally shared her photo to a Facebook group called That's It, I'm Ring Shaming. But it has since gone viral, as just about everyone is stunned by what she had to say.
"Ewwwww," her post began.
"Found this in the [boyfriend's] nightstand. Not a fan. Please roast and then tell me how to tactfully say no you need to go get something different."
In this case "roast" means to insult the ring. Yes, the woman was actually inviting other women to shame the engagement ring her boyfriend picked out before he even offered it to her.
And while it may not have been to her taste, the three-stone ring with a silver band looks perfectly fine to me.
Other online commenters agreed, with many criticizing the woman who shared the original photo, and not the ring.
"This is the saddest thing I've seen on this [forum]," wrote one Reddit user. "It's one thing when it's a total stranger, but when someone that's supposed to love you unconditionally acts like a grifter it's just plain sad."
"She should just say no and set the poor guy free rather than be saddled with her..." suggested another.
But one user in particular said it best:
If the ring is the problem, the ring isn't the problem. If she really loves him, she'll be over the moon with a ring made of tin foil. The fact that she's upset about the ring and not excited that her partner is about to propose is a massive red flag.
Even users in the Facebook group dedicated to "ring shaming" unfortunate engagement rings were not impressed by the woman's post.
"Your attitude is pretty basic so the ring might suit you," one teased.
"Hopefully it's not for you," joked another.
When "Ring Shaming" Backfires
The woman isn't the first to have her attempts at "ring shaming" blow up in her face.
When online critics insulted food blogger Jen Phanomrat's engagement ring, she put them in their place.
The debacle started when Phanomrat shared a beaming photo of her and her fiance, Leo.
"Nine years later I said YES to my best friend!" she captioned the happy picture, while showing off her pearl engagement ring.
But the nasty comments started pouring in, with some calling her new jewelry "the smallest ring ever made."
"So are we all just going to pretend like that ring isn't microscopically small?" wrote another commenter.
"It must suck to wait nine years for a ring that look [sic] like that," said another.
But, as Phanomrat explained to Yahoo Lifestyle, Leo's choice of ring suited her perfectly, and featured plenty of special meaning for the couple.
"I don't usually wear any jewelry, but when I do, it's simple and minimal," she revealed. "What mattered to me the most was the tiny detail on the inside of the ring."
"He asked the ring maker to inscribe the initials of our nicknames for each other. I swear I thought I was floating in the air when he pointed it out. My heart smiles every time I see it."
So there you have it: don't judge a book by its cover, and don't shame an engagement ring until you learn the story behind it.
[H/T: Today]
