A lot of people get married thinking that it's going to be a magical adventure that they embark on with the person that they love most. While it can be that, what a lot of people don't realize is that it takes a lot of hard work and dedication to keep a marriage going.
Living in close proximity to anybody for an extended period of time can cause rifts to form where you might otherwise not have predicted, and while some are able to weather the storm, the fact that the national divorce rate has eclipsed 50% of marriages goes to show that quite a few people are not able to make the cut. This can be for a multitude of completely legitimate reasons, and if you feel threatened by your partner or they have been unfaithful to you, it makes all the sense in the world for you to leave.
However, in some cases, the question is more about how much both people have actually tried to make a relationship work, and more than a few people who are well-versed in the subject agree on this. Case and point: a divorce lawyer was recently approached by a couple seeking to end things, but was able to change their mind with four simple questions...
Rafael Gonçalves is a young Brazilian family lawyer that specializes in divorce cases, and a Facebook post he chose to share from his business recently went viral. In addition to showing off the amount of paperwork it takes to finalize a divorce, he accompanied the post with a small list of four questions. Namely:
1) Have I done everything I can to save my marriage?
2) Right now, is divorce really the best solution?
3) Who are the people who most influence me?
4) How many difficult moments have you overcome together, and how did you meet?
Interestingly enough, these questions seem to have a big impact! Upon giving them to a couple who had come to him for the divorce filings, they later contacted him and informed him that they had decided not to split up after all!
“Sometimes I have to deal with couples who are still confused when they decide to start divorce proceedings, and in the heat of emotion, they don’t think very well before making this decision. [In this case], the divorce was unnecessary — so much so, that they’re still together today,” said Gonçalves.
What do you think of the questions he asks couples looking to divorce?