There should be some things that stay between a husband and a wife, but it's not uncommon for either party to reach outside their marriage for some advice. While it may be true that there's no such thing as a stupid question, there are such things as hurtful ones.
One woman in the US recently found out that asking for help can sometimes have unintended consequences.
A little over two weeks ago, a woman on Reddit posted a question to the "Am I an a**hole" subreddit, a group where people ask if they've done something wrong.
"Newlywed husband (32M) wanted to wait til marriage for sex and just surprised me (27F) with a micropenis on the honeymoon," she titled the post.
She explained that the couple had only dated for six months before getting engaged and were married before the year was out. The husband, while not a religious man, insisted on waiting until marriage to have sex. He said he was "old fashioned like that."
The poster says she tried to "fool around" but was always stopped before it went "too far."
On their honeymoon however the married couple did what married couples sometimes do, only there was a small problem.
Her husband surprised her with a micropenis, reportedly around 1.25 inches.
A micropenis is a hormonal defect where the male genitalia doesn't grow to standard length. It's characterized by stretched length (meaning erect) of less than 3.67 inches. According to many studies the average male has a stretched length of 5.21 inches.
The woman says she wasn't upset about the length of her husband's penis, but was hurt that he lied to her.
"Am I the a**hole for reading into this and being upset that I waited until my wedding night to find out that he probably isn't as 'old fashioned' as he says he is?" she asked. "I kind of feel lied to. Like a half-truth...or something was intentionally withheld from me."
Most on the thread agreed with her that her husband had been dishonest.
Sex is an important part of any relationship and so is trust. You don't need a large penis to have good sex, but you do need communication, trust, and respect.
Sadly, the story got even worse in a follow up post from the woman.
"My husband saw my post and says he wants to leave me and sue me?" she titled her second post. "Says he wants an annulment and is considering suing me for defamation of character."
She says that one of her husband's friends had seen her original post and linked him to it.
"He is crushed that I posted about him," she said.
She says the two eventually had a confrontation about the whole situation. The husband claimed that he didn't think she'd want to marry him if she knew about his condition, which is pretty much confessing to trapping her in a marriage.
"He wanted to talk before the wedding, but feared it being called off because of his micropenis and said if both families found out/gossiped about it he would be crushed."
His insecurity is understandable and his defensive reaction is also to be expected. The woman seems to show remorse for taking her dirty laundry to the public admitted that she basically gossiped to the entire world via Reddit.
We hope the pair can work it out, but there's a lot of water that will need to go under the bridge if they have any hope.