We all want to raise good kids. We try our best to teach them good values, but it's not always an easy task. Personalities clash, and some kids just have a mind of their own. It's hard to know whether or not your kids are listening and learning when you try to teach them things.
But according to psychologists at Harvard University, there are five secrets to raising a good kid, and if you want to make sure your kids turn into well-adjusted adults, you should take note! Even if you already have kids, see if your lessons make the list.
1. Spend time with them.
This sounds pretty simple, right? But it's so important. Instead of plopping your child down in front of the television or computer, actually spend time with them. Reading, playing outside, or even just talking can leave a lasting impact on your kids. It will show them that it's still important to make face-to-face connections with people, and they won't feel like they're being pushed to the side in favor of technology.
Think back to your own childhood, how many memories do you have with your parents? A lot, right? Make sure your kids have the same.
2. Let your kids know you're interested.
“Even though most parents and caretakers say that their children being caring is a top priority, often children aren’t hearing that message," Harvard researchers said.
If you're asking a teacher if your child's behavior has changed or if their grades or okay, let your kid know that's happening. Children need vocal affirmation that they are important to you and that someone is caring about their well-being. Feeding them, clothing them, and putting a roof over their heads are expected by your kids, but putting emphasis on other areas of their lives is an important way to tell them you care.
I remember my parents went to every single parent-teacher interview, even if it wasn't needed. They genuinely cared about my academic life and wanted me to know that. Sure, at the time I may have found their questions "annoying," but as an adult I now realize they were doing it because they care.