Mother-Of-The-Bride's Letter To Disabled Maid-of-Honor Will Infuriate You


Mother-Of-The-Bride's Letter To Disabled Maid-of-Honor Will Infuriate You


While a wedding is a happy occasion that tends to bring family and friends together in celebration, there have been instances where it tore people apart.

In the case of one anonymous bride and her mother, they are no longer on speaking terms after her mom asked that she remove her maid of honor from the wedding party for an awful reason.

In a letter addressed to Slate's weekly advice column Dear Prudence, the mother-of-the-bride wrote about why she doesn't want her daughter's best friend and maid of honor, Katie, to walk down the aisle at the nuptials, and her explanation is deeply offensive.

She begins the note with a short backstory about how long they have known Katie and that she is "like a daughter to me."

"My 27-year-old daughter and her best friend, Katie, have been best friends since they were 4. Katie practically grew up in our house and is like a daughter to me. My daughter recently got engaged to her fiancé and announced that Katie would be the maid of honor (Katie's boyfriend is also a good friend of my future son-in-law)," reads the letter.

However, it is what followed after the introduction that has people feeling infuriated.

The "momzilla" explained that she wants her daughter's wedding to be perfect, and that means she can't have a member of the wedding party looking "unsightly." She does not want Katie beside her daughter because she "walks with a pretty severe limp due to a birth defect (not an underlying medical issue)."

She continued, "She has no problem wearing high heels and has already been fitted for the dress, but I still think it will look unsightly if she's in the wedding procession limping ahead of my daughter."

Are you angry yet? Wait until you read what she wrote next.

"I mentioned this to my daughter and suggested that maybe Katie could take video or hand out programs (while sitting) so she doesn't ruin the aesthetic aspect of the wedding. My daughter is no longer speaking to me (we were never that close), but this is her big wedding and I want it to be perfect."

The problem with this mother-of-the-bride is that she does not realize how mean and discriminatory she sounds, no wonder she doesn't get along well with her daughter.

"All of the other bridesmaids will look gorgeous walking down the aisle with my daughter. Is it wrong to have her friend sit out?"

Mallory Ortenberg, the writer behind Dear Prudence, replied to the offensive letter, saying "I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around this letter. I encourage you to reread it and to ask yourself that time-honored question, 'Do I sound like a villain in a Reese Witherspoon movie?'"

She then bluntly pointed out that the mother may think she came "across as reasonable and as caring as possible." but this letter proved otherwise.

"This girl is "like a daughter" to you, and yet you want to shove her to the side of your other daughter's wedding just because she walks with a limp. Your daughter's wedding will be perfect with Katie as a full and honored member of the bridal party," Mallory continued.

She added, "A limp is not a fly in the ointment; it's a part of Katie's life. It is not only wrong to have asked your daughter to consider excluding her best friend over this"”it is ableist, and cruel, and it speaks to a massive failure of empathy, compassion, and grace on your part. You must and should apologize to your daughter immediately, and I encourage you to profoundly reconsider the orientation of your heart."

What do you think of the mother-of-the-bride's letter? Let us know in the comments!

Blair isn't a bestselling author, but she has a knack for beautiful prose. When she isn't writing for Shared, she enjoys listening to podcasts.