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6 Big Parenting Mistakes That Are Harming Your Kids

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As a parent, we do everything we possibly can for our children. We try to protect and love them with every bone in our bodies. Sometimes this backfires on us, and the things we try our hardest to achieve, end up hurting our kids in some sort of way.

That being said, every parenting style is unique in it's own way, and as long as you're caring and loving for your child, you're doing it right. No matter how good of a parent we are, we can't be perfect.

Here are some toxic parenting things you may be doing without even noticing it.

1. You're too protective.

If you're a parent, you probably know how it almost feels impossible to give your first child freedom. As a parent, you want to watch over them and protect them from anything bad in the world. If they were ever hurt, you would blame yourself. Although this is our natural instinct as parents, our kids have to learn how to be independent without constantly relying on us.

Watching our children growing up is hard, but watching them grow into responsible young adults is the greatest accomplishment you will ever feel. Let your kids grow to be the successful and independent people you always hoped they would be, learn to let go a little bit, as much as you might not want to.

2. You try to be their best friend.

Being close with your children is a great feeling, but at the end of the day children need parents, not friends. The roles of parent and child need to be firmly in place with clear boundaries in order for a child to feel comfortable and grow to be a mentally healthy adult. Although you want to be involved in your child's life, being their best friend is not a good way of going about this. You can be close without becoming a friend.

3. You compare them.

Sometimes we do this subconsciously, but it's something we really need to watch out for. It can be easy to have the idea that comparing your child to their sibling or friend will help them understand what you expect of them, but it never works this way and can be very toxic.

They may begin to see themselves as not good enough and can be very hard for their self-esteem. Instead, celebrate their individuality instead of comparing them. If they are doing something unacceptable, you can tell them that without giving them the idea that they aren't good enough.

4. You give one child more attention.

If you have more than one child, you probably know how difficult it is trying to balance both of their needs. I often face this problem with my two daughters. One of them requires a lot more attention due to a learning disability. I often get so caught up in helping her, my other daughter feels left out, and almost as if I love my other daughter more than her.

Obviously, that isn't true but I constantly face this issue and have to remind myself to include both daughters, even though one needs a lot more attention than the other. This happens to any parent. Every child has a different set of needs and it is our job to recognize these and try our best to tend to all of them.

I am always guilty of this next one.

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